"Do not stand by my grave and weep" is the first line and popular title of the bereavement poem "Immortality" by Clare Harner, published in 1934. Often now used is a slight variant: "Do not stand at m
The poem on a gravestone at St Peter's church, Wapley, England
The poem on a gravestone in Mount Jerome, Dublin, Ireland
The poem, on a plaque at the Albin Memorial Gardens, Culling Road, London SE16
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Dear Abby is an American advice column founded in 1956 by Pauline Phillips under the pen name "Abigail Van Buren" and carried on until July 2026 by her daughter, Jeanne Phillips, who now owns the lega
Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep
…She was first wrongly cited as the author of the poem in 1983. In her obituary, it was asserted that her authorship was "undisputed" and confirmed by Dear Abby. However, Pauline Phillips and her daughter Jeanne Phillips, writing as Abigail van Buren, repeatedly confessed to their readers that they could not…
Dear Abby star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame memorializing the Dear Abby radio show